I work with at-risk 7th graders at Brazos Middle School, and today was the first day I wanted to punch one of them in the face.
Carlos is an absurdly effiminate hispanic student who could, indeed, be repeating the 7th grade for the third time if he doesn't get his act together. Carlos is smart enough to do his work, but he refuses to focus. Instead of working on his Texas history assignments today, he complained of thirst (in an annoyingly gay voice), took his shoes off, and sang a song about fairies. He wasted 10 minutes running around the school, myself close on his heels, and asking random teachers for paper. When one teacher refused his request and scolded him for interrupting her class, Carlos kicked and beat on the door.
He's a nice kid. Annoying as hell, but nice. Today, however, I couldn't stand him, and I'm sure the look on my face reflected my irritation with him.
How do you make a difference with people who refuse to cooperate? Do you ignore his cries for attention, hoping he'll resolve to do his work himself? Is it better to be stern, so he'll move ahead in life, or to be his friend, since he doesn't seem to have too many?
Kids like Carlos make my volunteering efforts seem fruitless and desolate.
But Carlos isn't the only one. That school has no hope. Students run down the hallways, hit one another with shoes, scream, fight, backtalk teachers ... it's unreal. Should I have any faith in what I'm doing? Will even one kid be less of a hoodlum because of the time I've spent with them?
Travis, with whom I've worked for a year, has been in alternative school for weeks. He got in a fight with the campus police officer. There's no control, no order. Brazos Middle School is a place to temporarily hold back terror from the surrounding neighborhoods. In a few years, these kids will run wild in the streets, carrying guns, killing one another, having babies, and draining the good from society. There is no hope. Our efforts are futile.
Eccentric, 21-year-old white guys can't be role models for black middle-schoolers in the heart of the Waco ghetto.